I wish I would have been sitting down when she said it. I wasn’t. I was standing in the doorway of a coffee shop, saying goodbye with keys in my hand—so ready to leave—and that was before she even opened her mouth. “You and me,” she said, “always falling for the wrong guys.” I laughed—a […]
The truth is, if you’re a genuinely nice person, you’re bound to get taken for granted in this world. I wish this weren’t the case, but sadly, if you’re kind, caring, sensitive, and empathetic, you’re naturally a magnet for narcissists, manipulators, addicts, and people who are willing to take more from you than they have […]
I worked for a boss once who made me feel terrible about myself. He would often make unrealistic requests of me—sometimes long after work hours—and make me feel guilty if I didn’t act like it was “my pleasure” to do it. I worked hard for him. Really hard, always thinking that if I could finally […]
I’ll never forget the first time my husband and I went to marriage counseling. I was happy to be there, at least as happy as you can be to be in marriage counseling. Mostly, I was looking forward to that delicious moment when a trained professional would finally tell my husband what I had been […]
I’ve been a people pleaser for about as long as I can remember. In fact, I used to think this was just a “fun fact” about myself. Like, “yeah, I’m just one of those people pleasers”. It wasn’t until a few years ago I started to see what havoc this was wreaking on my personal […]
